All this Melanin – Flawless 81

“I can do all things through Jesus Christ who strengthens me”

Look at all this melanin. Beautiful under the sun, beautiful during the sunset, beautiful at night.

I’m becoming more comfortable in my skin, in my body, in my spirit. And that is one of the most beautiful things of all.










Felt like channeling my inner 90’s girl… or maybe it’s the 80s.. ūüôā

I’ve never taken pictures in the evening, or even at night,¬†so I just went out one night and just decided to. I love how I caught the sunset in the back!

  • Baseball Shirt:
  • Jeans: Ross
  • Magazine Print Boots:
  • Jewelry: Charlotte Russe

God Bless

Tomi xx

Culture Me

Hey Beautifuls!

This is a really late post lol. I’m trying to get back on my A-game.

On Easter Sunday I decided to go back to my roots, with a bit of a modern twist.

I wore the Traditional Aso-Oke in what my Aunt (who’s a queen) would call royal colors. Of course my modern twist was the more modern lace blouse instead of a traditional buba.

I even tied the Gele (head tie) myself! It was my first time ever trying and I think I did a great job!







  • Aso-Oke and Blouse – Nigeria
  • Shoes – Forever21

A Day at the Museum

Hey guys!

This is actually a really late post. My sisters and I went to the Dallas Museum of Art over Spring Break and I decided to share the pictures with you.

Better late than never, right?

We had a great time! The artifacts were beautiful! My favorite was the HUGE Bejeweled wardrobe that we saw. They even had artifacts from Nigeria and all the different cultures and tribes of Nigeria. It was a really great experience.

In case you were wondering…. The Dashiki Jacket was custom made by me.














The New Nigerian Tag

  1. What is your Nigerian/Tribal name?
  2. Do you have a Nigerian nickname?
  3. Were you born in Nigeria?
  4. What country are you in right now?
  5. When was the last time you were in Nigeria?
  6. How many times have you been there?
  7. Favorite Nigerian food?
  8. Favorite Nigerian snack?
  9. Can you cook Nigerian Food?
  10. Did you go to school in Nigeria? Day or Boarding?
  11. What tribe are you?
  12. Do you speak your language?
  13. Say something in your language.
  14. Can you speak pidgin English?
  15. Favorite Nigerian celebrity? Actor/Singer/ Whatever
  16. Favorite Nigerian song? (Sing it!!!)
  17. Favorite Nigerian Movie?
  18. What do you like most about Nigeria?
  19. What do you hate most about Nigeria?
  20. Do you want to marry a Nigerian?
  21. Would you give your kids Nigerian names?
  22. As a Nigerian what makes you different from other nationalities?
  23. What about you represents your culture?
  24. What around your house represents your culture?
  25. What’s a stupid question you were asked about your culture?

Hi, I created the New Nigerian tag, just because I wanted to do my own, and¬†I wasn’t really liking the ¬†question on the original one I had seen.¬†Of course this one is inspired by that one. Make sure to peep the video above¬†and subscribe if you haven’t already.

Feel free to use it on your YouTube channels or pages or whatever. But if you do please link them back here!

Much love

xx Tomi P.

Where are Friendships Going These Days

Something has been on my mind for a few days and I’m very sure by the title you may already know what it is. Where are our friendships going these days? We claim to be friends to our faces, but anyone else would think we were the worst of enemies. But anyways before I jump the gun. Let’s start with the basics

What is a Friend?

  • If you were to take your definition from the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, it says ¬†“a friend is one attached to another by affection¬†or esteem or a favored companion”.
  • In my own point of view
    a friend is someone who you can confide in, you find comfort in them and their presence.

What is Friendship?

  • The dictionary has a very boring meaning, so I’m just gonna¬†to skip that.
  • From me, a friendship is a mutual relationship between two or more parties (people), looking out for one another, caring for each other, having each other’s backs.

So, now you’re probably thinking, where is Tomi¬†going with all of this?

Well, people have forgotten the meaning of being a friend and the essence of friendship, and that’s just it, plain and simple. People have let status, material wealth and(in its own way) social media get in the way of friendships.

One of the major things I don’t understand is, let’s say you have a friend, right? Are we on the same page? You have a friend (preferably a close one). And your friend happens to do something or behave in a certain way that irks you. Let’s say he/she….. Okay I can’t think of anything right now, but let’s assume it’s really bad. You’re very upset. The right thing to do would be to¬†confront your friend and talk to them about what hurt you and how it hurt you and resolve issues as the mature and humble human beings that you are, but instead you go on twitter and tweet something like “Humans can’t be trusted” “They’ll claim to be your friend but then you see what they’re doing behind you” “Don’t lie to me” “Friends don’t do that to each other” “These hoes ain’t loyal”¬†. And you go on this subbing spree, knowing fully well how angry you are at your termed “friend”, but when you happen to see this friend again, you’re all bubbly like nothing happened. You talk about the subs, and lie that it’s another person you’re talking about., and then you go back on twitter and you’re like “Learning not to trust people these days” and on top of that you’re saying horrible things behind his/her back. WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING??

Or let’s say you plot something evil and wicked against your, once again, termed “friend” to hurt them emotionally to a point of possibly no return, and you call yourself a “Friend?” And you think people want to be your “friend” after that knowing the kind of person you are? WHAT THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU’RE DOING??

We use the term “friend” so casually these days that we are forgetting what being a “friend” actually means.

Which leads me to ask, Where are friendships going these days? We find out that people are friends for material purposes, status, some are even there to pull you down and other stupid things. We need to reevaluate ourselves. Why are we really friends with some people?

So answer me this.

Where is your friendship going today?


Lots of Love.



A Time for Everything (OOTD)

“To everything¬†there is¬†a season,¬†A time for every purpose under heaven.”¬†Ecclesiastes 3: 1


Hey Beautifuls! It’s been a minute. Today’s post is an OOTD with my friend. We were at my Aunt’s (not really an aunt, but if you’re Nigerian, you understand) Introduction Ceremony. It’s a Yoruba tradition where a couple has been engaged to be married and they have this big ceremony introducing their fiance to both sides of the family basically. It’s just like a mini Traditional wedding.







My Buddy, Tochukwu, who came around





And The beautiful Bride to Be




My Outfit:

  • Dress: Rue 21
  • Shoes: A Gift
  • Jewelry: Rue 21

That’s all for today! God Bless!




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