Beauty and Success

If you’re a beautiful woman, will you be successful?

What does it mean to be beautiful? Symmetry in face, a healthy body, a good hip-to-waist ratio? Biologically, concepts of beauty pertain to these attributes and some say a male finding a female mate looks for these qualities along with the ability to breed strong children. Even deeper into biology, men are attracted to women who have the opposite immunity genes to females to maintain health and balance.

What does it mean to be beautiful in the fashion, pop-culture, film, and the entertainment industry as a woman? To be within a certain age bracket, a certain weight, a certain height, certain dimensions, to have particular facial structures and body structures. When did gap teeth become beautiful, a big booty, over plumped lips?

Trends in beauty come and go and differ from culture and culture but symmetry and health will always be biologically attractive in human nature.

As I write this, beauty is actually not the subject. Beauty in a woman is what is praised. Should it be?

I started the Woman’s Crush Wednesday Club because the meaning meant something that was beautiful to look at. Girls of all ages using social media became to acknowledge that self-obsession and one’s appearance to the world is what got them “liked”. I “Like” you because you are beautiful.

WHAT? When in this period of time since Facebook, Instagram and Twitter started that women started taking themselves for granted, showing their only worth and VALUE was their appearance and how many “likes” their photos got them?

And it is value in both a sense of self confidence and a monetary one because not only do girls get more self-confidence based on the number of likes their pictures get but, at a tipping point over a certain number of followers, they can capitalize on it. They can become the “Model” that they always dreamed they would be, even if they couldn’t be one in real life because their looks, dimensions and photographic ability wouldn’t allow them to.

Their Instagram Model status made them a lucrative commodity of superficial fakeness which makes them a sellable product. Even a service which can then sell products. And, you know what, that’s fine. That’s more than fine as they have turned their time spent photographing themselves into a business. Look at The Kardashians. Hats off to them. Their reality show, sex tape, social media profiles, social media propaganda, manipulated “on-screen” lives have become a hugely successful business.

So let’s get back to Woman’s Crush Wednesday Club. On social media, one’s Woman’s Crush Wednesday can be a variety of hot, sexy, quite often half naked women who may or may not be famous in any respects. Is that wrong? No. But I decided to start a club where girls of all ages could see that supporting and promoting actual successful, inspiring women who have worked hard and achieved something admirable in business, fashion, entrepreneurship, tech, media, law, entertainment were to be praised to. For the young girls we raise shouldn’t just be praising these demagogues of the “Instagram Model”, they should be praising women who have worked hard when there still is a glass ceiling and became their own boss in a line of work which wasn’t just about taking selfies.

Look at Sheryl Sandberg, Arianna Huffington, Oprah Winfrey, Michelle Obama, Hillary Clinton, Marissa Myer, and others.

With the Woman’s Crush Wednesday Club, my company JPR Media Group partners with senior management from luxury brands like Ralph Lauren, Coach, Fendi, Stella McCartney, Liberty, Tod’s, Christian Dior Beauty, Roland Mouret, Felder Felder and we celebrate successful inspiring women who have worked hard to achieve something admirable.

To find out more, please feel free to email my personal email and I will be happy to listen:

All this Melanin – Flawless 81

“I can do all things through Jesus Christ who strengthens me”

Look at all this melanin. Beautiful under the sun, beautiful during the sunset, beautiful at night.

I’m becoming more comfortable in my skin, in my body, in my spirit. And that is one of the most beautiful things of all.










Felt like channeling my inner 90’s girl… or maybe it’s the 80s.. 🙂

I’ve never taken pictures in the evening, or even at night, so I just went out one night and just decided to. I love how I caught the sunset in the back!

  • Baseball Shirt:
  • Jeans: Ross
  • Magazine Print Boots:
  • Jewelry: Charlotte Russe

God Bless

Tomi xx

Culture Me

Hey Beautifuls!

This is a really late post lol. I’m trying to get back on my A-game.

On Easter Sunday I decided to go back to my roots, with a bit of a modern twist.

I wore the Traditional Aso-Oke in what my Aunt (who’s a queen) would call royal colors. Of course my modern twist was the more modern lace blouse instead of a traditional buba.

I even tied the Gele (head tie) myself! It was my first time ever trying and I think I did a great job!







  • Aso-Oke and Blouse – Nigeria
  • Shoes – Forever21

A Day at the Museum

Hey guys!

This is actually a really late post. My sisters and I went to the Dallas Museum of Art over Spring Break and I decided to share the pictures with you.

Better late than never, right?

We had a great time! The artifacts were beautiful! My favorite was the HUGE Bejeweled wardrobe that we saw. They even had artifacts from Nigeria and all the different cultures and tribes of Nigeria. It was a really great experience.

In case you were wondering…. The Dashiki Jacket was custom made by me.














The New Nigerian Tag

  1. What is your Nigerian/Tribal name?
  2. Do you have a Nigerian nickname?
  3. Were you born in Nigeria?
  4. What country are you in right now?
  5. When was the last time you were in Nigeria?
  6. How many times have you been there?
  7. Favorite Nigerian food?
  8. Favorite Nigerian snack?
  9. Can you cook Nigerian Food?
  10. Did you go to school in Nigeria? Day or Boarding?
  11. What tribe are you?
  12. Do you speak your language?
  13. Say something in your language.
  14. Can you speak pidgin English?
  15. Favorite Nigerian celebrity? Actor/Singer/ Whatever
  16. Favorite Nigerian song? (Sing it!!!)
  17. Favorite Nigerian Movie?
  18. What do you like most about Nigeria?
  19. What do you hate most about Nigeria?
  20. Do you want to marry a Nigerian?
  21. Would you give your kids Nigerian names?
  22. As a Nigerian what makes you different from other nationalities?
  23. What about you represents your culture?
  24. What around your house represents your culture?
  25. What’s a stupid question you were asked about your culture?

Hi, I created the New Nigerian tag, just because I wanted to do my own, and I wasn’t really liking the  question on the original one I had seen. Of course this one is inspired by that one. Make sure to peep the video above and subscribe if you haven’t already.

Feel free to use it on your YouTube channels or pages or whatever. But if you do please link them back here!

Much love

xx Tomi P.

The Perfect Purple Smokey Eye

HI Guys and welcome back to my page!
I hope you guys like this Purple Smokey Eye that I created. I’ve really been inspired by Spring and really just colors that aren’t neutral (which is what I’m used to) I hope you enjoy this look!


Urban Decay Eyeshadow Potion
Elf Black Eyeshadow Duo
L.A. Colors Color Spark Palette
Black Radiance Urban Trio
Ulta “Electric Lights” Eyeshadow
Loreal Voluminous Miss Manga Mascara
Loreal Voluminous Original
Rimmel ScandalEyes Waterproof Eye Kohl “Black”


Milk of Magnesia
Maybelline FitMe Foundation “355”
LaGirl Concealer “Fawn”
ButterCup Setting powder
Maybelline Expert Wear eyeshadow “Nutmeg”
Wet’n’Wild Blush “Pearlescent Pink”


Elf Studio High Definition Powder
Rimmel Brown Lip Liner
Wet’n’Wild “Bare it All”
Mac “Cherish”


xx Tomi P.