Something has been on my mind for a few days and I’m very sure by the title you may already know what it is. Where are our friendships going these days? We claim to be friends to our faces, but anyone else would think we were the worst of enemies. But anyways before I jump the gun. Let’s start with the basics

What is a Friend?

• If you were to take your definition from the Merriam-Webster Dictionary, it says  “a friend is one attached to another by affection or esteem or a favored companion”.
• In my own point of view
  a friend is someone who you can confide in, you find comfort in them and their presence.

What is Friendship?

• The dictionary has a very boring meaning, so I’m just gonna to skip that.
• From me, a friendship is a mutual relationship between two or more parties (people), looking out for one another, caring for each other, having each other’s backs.

So, now you’re probably thinking, where is Tomi going with all of this?

Well, people have forgotten the meaning of being a friend and the essence of friendship, and that’s just it, plain and simple. People have let status, material wealth and(in its own way) social media get in the way of friendships.

One of the major things I don’t understand is, let’s say you have a friend, right? Are we on the same page? You have a friend (preferably a close one). And your friend happens to do something or behave in a certain way that irks you. Let’s say he/she….. Okay I can’t think of anything right now, but let’s assume it’s really bad. You’re very upset. The right thing to do would be to confront your friend and talk to them about what hurt you and how it hurt you and resolve issues as the mature and humble human beings that you are, but instead you go on twitter and tweet something like “Humans can’t be trusted” “They’ll claim to be your friend but then you see what they’re doing behind you” “Don’t lie to me” “Friends don’t do that to each other” “These hoes ain’t loyal” . And you go on this subbing spree, knowing fully well how angry you are at your termed “friend”, but when you happen to see this friend again, you’re all bubbly like nothing happened. You talk about the subs, and lie that it’s another person you’re talking about., and then you go back on twitter and you’re like “Learning not to trust people these days” and on top of that you’re saying horrible things behind his/her back. WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING??

Or let’s say you plot something evil and wicked against your, once again, termed “friend” to hurt them emotionally to a point of possibly no return, and you call yourself a “Friend?” And you think people want to be your “friend” after that knowing the kind of person you are? WHAT THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU’RE DOING??

We use the term “friend” so casually these days that we are forgetting what being a “friend” actually means.

Which leads me to ask, Where are friendships going these days? We find out that people are friends for material purposes, status, some are even there to pull you down and other stupid things. We need to reevaluate ourselves. Why are we really friends with some people?

So answer me this.

Where is your friendship going today?

Lots of Love.

Tomi

xx.